What is the Secret to happiness

We all are seeking happiness, but unfortunately in today's lifestyle it's lost or i say the  meaning is lost. The one who seems happy to the world is somewhere crying at a corner in dark . Ironically sometimes the ones who doesn't seem happiest in eyes of world are secretly happy. So what is the parameter of happiness and what is happiness. Ever felt confused? Ever thought of finding happiness? If you had thoughts like this then this post is for you because i am going to illustrate a few examples of happiness and a conclusion so that you can find your answers directly.

Parameter of happiness is never same for everyone, for a person spending money on luxuries brings happiness while for some other person spending time with their family works, also there are people who find happiness in solitude while others find it in a gathering, so it's always different for different individuals, still there is a rule that i figured out after reading, observing and understanding my own experiences.

1- Ever wondered why a kid is always happy apart from crying which he also makes to get his things done but a kid is always happy inside. There are Reasons which we elders should take as a lesson. Happiness is in their carelessness, they are happy because they doesn't calculate things or feelings, they doesn't manipulate but in the process of becoming an adult a kid looses all these qualities and now this adult starts finding the meaning of happiness.
So the first step to happiness is being less manipulative and complicated in life, speaking of what you feel ,what you need and clearing your heart out really helps in becoming a happy person.

2- Do you Know where to find happiness ?? By keeping yourself busy or by spending money on buying stuffs you love or by spending time with your loved ones ?

One must know that happiness is not something you find outside, it might make you feel good for a few hours or days. In fact it is going to hurt you at some point. Suppose you don't have money to buy stuffs some day you won't be living happily. Or if you are depended on your boyfriend, you will be shattered if there is any fight or break in relationship. Also if you find happiness by keeping yourself busy then what will happen if someday you won't be able to work!

All these things says that depending on external things for your happiness  is not going to stay for long. The key to be happy is knowing that happiness is not something you find outside or in others but it is something that comes within you, it's a choice that you make.

3- The most important key to be happy is acceptance, acceptance of whatever life has offered will bring you peace as well as happiness because you won't be chasing things that are not your's if you have already accepted your circumstances and situations. I am not saying that one shouldn't be trying to change his circumstances but once you have accepted and decided that you are only going to work towards betterment without expecting any results back you will be happy.

4- Ever asked yourself if you are  satisfied with whatever you have ?? I think most of the people are not. Being satisfied with whatever you have in life and also being grateful for those things will make you a happier person because you won't be chasing again. Once You are happy with whatever you have you will not feel sad or complaining if you see someone else doing better than you instead you will be working hard with gratitude to achieve new heights.

So the conclusion here for being a happier person is -
1- Being less complicated and manipulative.
2- knowing that happiness is independent of external forces, it lies inside you.
3- Acceptance of what life gives you.
4- Being satisfied

I hope now you know what real happiness mean, and how you can be a happier person. Comment if these tips are any helpful. Thanks for reading .